One of the main lessons I have learned from COVID-19 is how people have "Reacted" vs "Responded" to this crisis. In this post I want to explain the difference and encourage you to apply the healthy option not only to the current stressor of COVID-19 but to all other stressors that come up throughout life. This could be how we respond to a spouse or child, whether or not we give into a trigger for an addiction, deal with anger and so on.
Do you "react" to situations or do you "respond"? What would others say about you? As I said above, going through this COVID-19 craziness, we are seeing a lot of reacting, hence we can't buy toilet paper unless we get in line at Costco at 4AM! People have clearly acted on the emotions of fear, uncertainty and stress. They have primarily been "me" focused, not thinking about the next person that may need those supplies or food. If society as a whole would have "responded" more, we would be in a little different situation. Obviously many good people have "responded" very well and very generously in this crazy time as well, and to them I am grateful! People are good!!
I really like the following tool to help us Respond instead of React.
STOP: The One Minute Breathing Space
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I have been a therapist for over over 15 years and have read a lot of self-help books and consider myself to be somewhat of a self-help book junkie. VERY FEW self-help books do I agree with cover to cover but most I am able to glean at lest a few applicable nuggets that will enrich my life. Many of them have quite a bit of good information that can be applied to our lives and struggles that will give us effective tools and skills to do better and be better.
I am sure if you are reading this, then you have probably read your fair share of self-help books too! I don't know about you, but for me there is one thing that regualry frustrates me with a lot of self-help books. They are way too wordy! The useful information they provide could probably be said in a third of the pages. There is a lot of repetition and unnecessary stories. I know many people like stories, but there is a limit! So, this blog will provide lists, diagrams and brief explanations of the most important parts of self-help books and my own experiences as a therapist. I hope this blog serves as a quick reference guide for you to turn to to remind yourself what needs to be done to accomplish a specific goal, whether it be improving a relationship, parenting, overcoming an addiction, or coping with feelings such as depression, anxiety, anger, grief, stress and other intense emotions.
Please feel free to comment your thoughts on the post and offer any thoughts on how it may have helped you. I hope this helps and gives you hope that you can change and you can do better and be better!